When I was just starting out as a coach and consultant, over 20 years ago, I would get super nervous when I was meeting with a client.

I was well-trained and uber-prepared. Dressed in my suit (it was a long time ago, I said that, right?) I would go in with ‘the right’ questions on my note pad. I would say the ‘right’ things as I had learned them, trying to act calm, collected and professional. 

On the inside though, I would be frantically asking myself: What should I do? What can I help him/her/them with? How can I get this right’? Of course feeling anything but calm and collected. Let alone professional. More like scared and in over my head.

As soon as I would have an idea of what my role could be for this client, I would jump on it, find a way to make them see that, and then move heaven and earth to deliver what I had promised. 

And I was lucky, and eager, and hard working, and I often got away with it. Things would often work out well.

But it had absolutely nothing to do with Holding Space 🙂 

It was 100% ‘(trying-to-)make-it-happen’ masculine energy.

And it was very stressful. It did not feel safe (even though I had a good and supportive manager), there was nothing for me to rest in inside myself. 

I was always wondering if I was doing things well enough. If I was good enough. And of course my default answer was ‘no’.

(Sound familiar in any way?)

Looking back, it’s no surprise that I had a severe burn-out at 28.

That was my turning point.

It has taken me years to start developing my feminine skills. Which, by the way, go way beyond things like sexuality and the roles we feel comfortable with for women in our society. They include surrender, feeling deeply, being comfortable with not knowing, nourishing our connections, embracing chaos, being deeply rooted in our bodies and our soul knowing. 

Our myths about how Life is controllable, manageable, how we can decide what happens (and if we fail, we must have done something wrong) – they are very persistent.

Holding Space is a very potent way to tap into the healing powers of the Feminine. To train yourself to let go of doing most of the time. 

And while you learn how to do this, your clients will love you for it. Because the healing powers of Holding Space, of Yin, are incredibly rich, reaffirming and nourishing.

They add a superpower to everything that you offer people. In work and in your personal life. 

Finding myself mostly on the other side now, I can honestly say, that my initiation into the Feminine, into Holding Space, has been the single most empowering and satisfying experience of my life.

This is where my true power comes from, my soul connection. And all my masculine skills and talents are very well suited serving this.

Would you like to experience this magic? Join me in the free workshop: Holding Space+ and have a taste!